Frequently Asked Questions
Q. What is Safe Haven Sunday?
Safe Haven Sunday will take place on March 10, 2019. At Mass, your pastor will directly address the harms of pornography and provide resources to support and protect individuals, marriages, and families in overcoming pornography and making their homes safe.
Q. Is Safe Haven Sunday an annual initiative?
March 10, 2019, is the first Safe Haven Sunday initiative to occur in the Diocese of La Crosse. We have not committed to Safe Haven Sunday beyond this year. If this year’s event is as successful as we hope, we will consider continuing it in future years.
Q. What is this year’s theme for Safe Haven Sunday?
This year’s theme is Equipping the Family, Safeguarding Children.
Q. Is Safe Haven Sunday implemented at the diocesan or parish level?
Both. This is a weekend that is initiated by the Diocese of La Crosse, and Bishop Callahan requests that all parishes implement this weekend. The diocese plays a leading role in the weekend, primarily by way of communicating necessary actions to implement the weekend and, at the same time, spearheading communication with the parishes and the public. The parish role is to provide communications to parishioners and implement Safe Haven Sunday on March 10, 2019. As an optional but not required, component, parishes can also provide to parishioners this year’s educational resource booklet, Equipped: Smart Catholic Parenting in a Sexualized Culture.
Q. What role does the pastor have in the implementation of Safe Haven Sunday?
This effort is designed to be led primarily by the pastor. He will be provided all the tools to make Safe Haven Sunday a success, including homily helps, general intercessions, prayer card, bulletin blurbs and inserts, as well as the opportunity to purchase educational resources to distribute to parishioners, which include this year’s booklet, Equipped: Smart Catholic Parenting in a Sexualized Culture, which is available in both English and Spanish. There is also a free seven-day text-to-opt-in program, available in English and Spanish, that provides practical tips that adults can take to create safer digital environments. Throughout the book and resources, readers are encouraged to sign up for the seven-day text-to-opt-in program by texting “secure” to 66866. Safe Haven Sunday is designed to be successful whether your pastor chooses to preach on pornography or chooses not to preach on the subject, relying instead on the resources and materials to deal with the subject pastorally. Covenant Eyes has a variety of resources on their Safe Haven Sunday Implementation Page.
Q. Who sets the date for Safe Haven Sunday?
Bishop William Patrick Callahan sets the date for diocesan implementation. All parishes in the diocese are asked to commit to celebrate Safe Haven Sunday on the same day. Our Safe Haven Sunday is set for March 10, 2019, which is the 1st Sunday of Lent.
Q. What are the costs to your parish for Safe Haven Sunday?
The cost to your parish is the book, Equipped: Smart Catholic Parenting in a Sexualized Culture, which is $1 per book. The official Safe Haven Sunday prayer cards are $15 per 100. We recommend that a copy of the book and prayer card be given to each family leaving Mass on Safe Haven Sunday. If your parish is unable or unwilling to incur this expense, Safe Haven Sunday can be successfully implemented without the book. Parishes may place their book and prayer card orders by sending an e-mail to: email@example.com. Your parish will be invoiced for the books and prayer cards. All materials will be distributed in February.
Q. Who is involved with the diocese in preparing Safe Haven Sunday resources and materials?
Covenant Eyes has prepared the Safe Haven Sunday concept, including the resources and materials. Covenant Eyes is a company committed to creating faith-based resources that foster the virtue of chastity and the tools to overcome pornography use and addiction. Its flagship service is Internet Accountability and Filtering. Safe Haven Sunday is one of the many resources Covenant Eyes has developed to assist U. S. dioceses and parishes to implement the USCCB’s November 2015 formal statement, Create in Me a Clean Heart: A Pastoral Response to Pornography, one step at a time.
Q. Are we the first diocese to implement Safe Haven Sunday?
No. The Archdiocese of New Orleans held the first Safe Haven Sunday on February 18, 2018, the 1st Sunday of Lent. The New Orleans experience was enormously successful, and that archdiocese has committed to continuing the program for the coming year. In addition, it appears about 12 other dioceses, including our own, will be participating in Safe Haven Sunday in the coming year.
Q. How can I get my other questions answered as they arise?
Please contact Alice Heinzen with your questions. (608) 791-2673 (direct) — firstname.lastname@example.org
Safe Haven Sunday Prayer
Thank you for the gift of marriage and family life. We entrust to you our home, where our marriage and family lives and grows. We ask you to make it a safe haven for all who live and enter these walls. May our home truly be a holy place for both young and old to be formed in the truth regarding life, love, sex, and marriage. May each of our members be protected from and guided in seeking to avoid pornography, while embracing the freedom and purity of life in Christ.
If there are past wounds that have occurred due to the availability of pornography on our family’s devices, lack of awareness of parents, or because of indifference, we ask you to send forth your Spirit to heal, bless, renew, and consecrate this home as a safe haven with your son Jesus Christ at the center of our lives, today, tomorrow, and always.
We ask this through the intercession of the Holy Family of Nazareth, Saints Joachim and Anne, the Sacred Heart of Jesus, and the Immaculate Heart of Mary. Amen.
The icon depicting Saints Joachim and Anne (Parents of Mary, the Mother of God) embracing inside the Holy House was written by iconographer Reverend Father Thomas J. Loya, Tabor Life Institute. Printed with Permission .
Joseph Prud’homme, Professor of Political Science, Washington College in this 90 second video challenges the inconsistent stated values and consumption of pornography by today’s young people.
TIMELINE AND CHECKLIST FOR PARISHES
To do in December
- Determine roles and responsibilities of parish staff members and volunteer assistants.
- Pastor informs parish of the initiative through its normal communication channels.
- Pastor obtains a copy of the booklet Equipped for review (these were passed out at deanery meetings and can also be mailed upon request). Copies of the book and prayer cards should be ordered by January 7, 2019.
- Determine who will make sure the bulletin blurbs and the bulletin inserts are included in your parish bulletin on the designated dates.
- Determine who will post information about Safe Haven Sunday on the parish webpage and/or social media using the bulletin blurbs document.
- Determine who will help with the printing and/or mailing and emailing of the introduction letter of Safe Haven Sunday from the pastor to all parish households
- Determine who will print the General Intercessions and make them available at the ambo for Safe Haven Sunday
- Determine who will place the Prayer Cards in the pews prior to the Vigil Mass and Sunday Masses
- Determine who will help pass out the book Equipped after the closing song of the Vigil Mass and Sunday Masses
To do in January
- Parish representative to place order for copies of Equipped: Smart Catholic Parenting in a Sexualized Culture and Safe Haven Sunday Prayer Cards (suggested one per family of each). Please email email@example.com by January 7th, 2019, and indicate how many of each item you would like to order (prayer cards are provided $15 per 100; Equipped booklets are $1 each).
To do in February
- Parish representative to print and mail introduction letter of Safe Haven Sunday from the pastor to all parish households (or creates bulletin insert).
- Parish representative ensures bulletin announcements and inserts are included in the parish bulletin on the designated dates as specified in the bulletin blurbs.
- Parish representative posts information about Safe Haven Sunday on parish website and social media from bulletin blurbs.
To do just prior to Safe Haven Sunday Masses
- General intercessions are printed and made available at ambo.
- Prayer cards placed in pews prior to Vigil Mass and replenished as necessary for Sunday Masses.
- Volunteers pass out copies of Equipped book to each family after all Masses.
PRINTABLE VERSION OF THIS CHECKLIST
Ways to Continue the Conversation
- Host a showing of the movie Screenagers
- Host an educational event for parents or students at your parish or school talking about the dangers of human trafficking.
Resources to learn more . . .
Create in Me a Clean Heart
A Pastoral Response to Pornography – United States Conference of Catholic Bishops
Help restore the integrity of individuals, spouses, and families that have been affected by pornography and pornography addiction.
Educational videos for parents to watch with their children and videos for parents (Bi-lingual, Spanish and English). School curriculum – Digital Citizenship, videos on how to set parental controls on devices, and more.
Purchased program that includes tracking app, training, community forums, resources
Coverage of the Safe Haven Sunday held in New Orleans: